婚輔信息：敬重那尊重人的丈夫 (Respecting A Respectful Husband)
作者：芭芭拉雷尼 (Barbara Rainey)
然而你們各人都當愛妻子，如同愛自己一樣；妻子也當敬重她的丈夫。(弗五33)
很不幸地，有些男人只聽見，保羅有關女人要順服的話，並將這話當作其專橫跋扈的許可證。要求一個妻子去順服一個，不懂得尊重她身為女人之需要的男人，是不可能的。
每一位丈夫都需要一個敬重他的妻子。這意味著她關注他、注重他、尊敬他、更喜愛他和珍重他。從負面的觀點來看，不敬重妳的丈夫，意味著侮辱、批評、不支持，或對他和他的需要，消極被動。
有一個敬重妳丈夫的方式，就是去考慮和了解，他身為家中的僕人/領袖，其責任的重擔。在觀察妳丈夫時，很容易只看到錯誤，而不看正面的。正如有人曾說過：錯誤就好像是你的車前大燈，而別人的錯誤似乎更加耀眼。妳的丈夫需要無條件的接納—他的錯誤和他的一切。正如肯尼羅格的歌所唱的：
她相信我。
我不知道她到底看中了我什麼，
但她就是相信我。
有一個向妳丈夫表達敬重的方式，就是接受他的日程計畫表。例如，在過去的幾年裡，我必須學習滿足於，常使我們整理行裝並離開的夏季日程表，因著丹尼斯 (芭芭拉的丈夫) 的教導工作、討論會和聚會。我們也必須學習，以行李箱和汽車來生活一陣子。
當實在受不了時，我會告訴丹尼斯，我們就做一些調整。是的，我丈夫的日程計畫表，對我很重要。我選擇參與一部分他所做的，在他手邊，看守並幫助他。我知道選擇以這些方式來支持丹尼斯，實際上，就是給予他敬重。
討論：
問妳的丈夫，何時他最感受到被妳敬重。問他為什麼。
禱告：
身為妻子，求神賜給妳，對妳丈夫之需要，更好的認識。好讓妳知道如何向他表達妳的敬重。
Marriage Devotional: Respecting A Respectful Husband
Author: Barbara Rainey
Nevertheless let each individual among you also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see to it that she respect her husband (Ephesians 5:33).
Unfortunately, some men hear only Paul‵s words about women being submissive and take this as license to be domineering. It‵s impossible for a wife to submit to a man who doesn‵t respect her needs as a woman.
Every husband needs a wife who respects him. That means she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him and esteems him. From a negative point of view, not respecting your husband means to be insulting, critical, nonsupportive or passive towards him and his needs.
One way to respect your husband is to consider and understand the weight of his responsibilities as a servant/leader in the home. It is easy to look at your husband and see what is wrong instead of right. As someone once said, "Faults are like the headlights of your car, those of others seem more glaring."
Your husband needs unconditional acceptance—faults and all. As a Kenny Roger’s song puts it:
She believes in me.
I don‵t know just what she sees in me,
But she believes in me.
One way to communicate respect to your husband is to accept his schedule. For example, in past years I had to learn to be content with a schedule that found us packing up and leaving for most of the summer for Dennis‵s teaching assignments, conferences and meetings. We also had to learn how to live a great deal of time out of a suitcase and even out of the car.
When it gets to be too much, I tell Dennis and we make adjustments. Yes, my husband‵s schedule is important to me. I choose to be a part of what he does, to watch and help, and to be available to him. And I know by choosing to support Dennis in these ways, I am actually showing him respect.
Discuss:
Ask your husband when he has felt most respected by you. Ask him why.
Pray:
As a wife, ask God to grant you a better understanding of your husband‵s needs so that you will be able to know how to express your respect of him.
